Our life experiences shape our brains—conditioning our perceptions. Rather than perceiving our life as a raw molecular dance, we overlay meaning via senses. Or as Alan Watts famously noted:
“The world is perceiving itself through our senses.”

We project beliefs onto the world like a hologram—each mind its own universe, though similar patterns facilitate shared narratives. These narratives become our reality: deeply felt, yet imprisoning. To transform the world, we must first shift our perceptions of ourselves and our surroundings.

When we keep our disowned and unclaimed self in the basement, we lose our spirit.

When you bring the back to the front (i.e., aspects of you that you hide—even from yourself),

When we bring the dark side—the shadow side, which really means the side of our psyche not lit up by our conscious awareness, into the light of awareness,

Not only do we see the parts of ourselves we tried not to be,

The parts that are abhorrent to us,

We’ve all had—or still have—a false self.

Once, it was necessary. Now, it isn’t.

Let’s come out of hiding together.

It may come as a surprise, but for most of us who do not awaken instantaneously, the personality must be involved in transcending itself.

“ To become an entirely authentic self, we must first attempt to centre the self into the Self by peeling away layer after layer of the personality until we reach the gravitational force that moves us towards our centre—putting us in touch with our basic goodness, our primordial wisdom.

Dukkha in Buddhism refers to the 'suffering' or 'unsatisfactoriness' of life.

A person might temporarily fulfil their desires, but suffering – whether physical, emotional or mental – cannot be avoided.

But we have been trying to avoid it…

We live in a world of perpetually satiating our desires and filling a void of emptiness - ad infinitum - whilst trying to ignore our suffering rather than face it.

However, this void, this dukkha, cannot ever be truly fulfilled from any external source.

If it could, it would have by now.

All the riches, all the wealth, all the entertainment, all the ‘self-help’ still fail to elicit a reliable source of permanent satisfaction or ease.

Our brains are conscious of only about 5% of what drives our behaviour.

For the other 95% we need a mirror.

You can’t tell me of your 95%, it is, by nature, unconscious. I can’t tell you mine.

Until that is, someone helped us see.

We are our own storehouse of wisdom, but an eye cannot see itself.

Yet, we don’t seem to have the education in managing emotions. How to be with strong charges, how to listen, how to meet our emotions and understand the messages they have for us.

Because they do have messages. Not only do they have messages, but even deeper, they have an energy that needs to move.

E-motion.

They want to move.

They need to express.

What happens when they don’t?

Be fully fearful.

Be fully depressed.

Be fully hurt.

Be fully upset.

Be completely and utterly the very thing you don’t want to be, and in being it you’ll get so intimate with yourself that you begin an inner lovemaking.

Yet the ‘spirit of things’ exists aside of the things.

We don’t tend to get taught this in our culture, yet our indigenous ancestors knew this well.

They knew very, very well, that THEY ARE the spirit of things.

Everything is the spirit of things.

It doesn’t come with ‘something’ and it doesn’t leave.

They didn’t hurt the planet because they could feel her ‘spirit’.

I think one of the biggest misconceptions about being human is that love is hard to get.

Whereas really, what we are saying is that love is hard to feel.

The latter being true for many of us at times, and the first being a possible untruth. Let’s play with the idea for a moment that love is the foundation on which we are built, a state in which we arise, the true nature of our being.

For example, each of us may have multiple Protectors, Managers, Firefighters, etc (parts of the psyche employed to protect fragmented parts of consciousness)

They engage and interact depending on the stimulus - you never know which one you’ll meet!

Or take, for example, your parents’ conditioning and ‘their voices’ you have in your head (introjects) and your partner’s introjects in their head.

Whose battle are you fighting?

Or your intergenerational suffering and consequential impact on your own inner masculine (Animus) and feminine (Anima) interacting with your partner/that gender at large, and projecting it onto them!

Love has been conditional, we’ve had to hide,

Afraid of being nothing, lost inside.

To disappear, to be no more,

This is the ego’s greatest fear,

To sink beneath the surface,

To vanish from the world,

Identity, once held so tight,

Now slips away into the night.

Sub-personalities all reside within this one body.

Ethereal, nebulous beings that are all us, yet none of which we can call I.

We're not just one fixed, stable "I," but a constellation of parts that have developed over time, each holding a specific role, purpose, and sometimes, unhealed wounds. This multiplicity isn't something to reject, but to explore, understand, and integrate.

The body becomes this incredibly fascinating place full of revelations when we begin to develop communication with it.

Core beliefs are the building blocks of the world we experience.

Like electrons around an atom, we have many ‘gravitating’ beliefs that orbit around the nucleus of Core beliefs.

This is the foundation on which we are built.

Unseen, like atoms, to the naked eye, they lay unconscious at the root of thoughts, feelings and behaviour.

We are complex, self-organising systems.

The shadow can be dark and scary - the unknown, the forbidden.

And it can be luminous - shining a light on parts that aren’t as ‘bad’ as we were told.

The disallowed/ disavowed can be welcomed with acceptance rather than judgment.

The trouble is when we shove everything into our shadow, it comes out sideways.

Here we may find in more painful feelings; that we are trying to protect ourselves from feeling : rejection, abandonment, unworthiness, bad etc.

We don’t want to feel these. These are too painful.

Yet, they are feelings that have been there all along, waiting to be felt once we are big and strong enough to feel them.

One area is the commitment to old principles, which often have their roots in our core material, which consists of beliefs about ourselves and the world that are not true.

Core commitment :

This is what we spend a lot of our time doing, but the satisfaction seems to elude us somehow.